We’re into diving into the depths of life because that's where the magic happens. You can refuse to step into your truth, refuse to face your fears, and take a seemingly safe, logical and predictable path, but let’s be honest… it won’t be very much fun. Why? Because everywhere you go, both your fears and your unmet dreams are walking right beside you. The unacknowledged truths of your inner world will wreak havoc on your life by attracting the same unmet desires in other people, other jobs, other places, ultimately sending you into one tailspin after another. Do you want to lose hours, weeks, years of your life to all that? Ultimately, the choice and the responsibility is always yours. Come après with us and ride into your most desired direction. See you on the flip side!
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As a rather new industry, we hear this a lot. Business coaching does not equate to the small business advisor at the local branch offering free services. Life coaching does not equate to therapy, which may take you in for years. It does not equate to a nutritionist whose role is a bit different from a holistic health coach. Not to mention that “successful” is a relative term.
Coaching holds you accountable. Coaching finds your WHY. Why do you want what you want? And even when you think you know your why, it will find your next why. Coaching takes you from where you are now to where you want to be. And to places you have not yet even realized you want to go. Coaching is not for the weak. A great coach will actually say to you what no one else will dare say.
The person affording your life may not be there tomorrow. The person emotionally supporting you might disappear despite asking you to always have their back. You could lose everything you have built in all realms of life in a heartbeat.
Are you prepared? Have you dug deep enough to know what you want if you could have anything? Have you dug deep enough to know what you want even if you lost everything you currently have tomorrow?
From fitting into that hot dress, to traveling to far away lands, to giving your kids the upbringing you did not have... what do you really want, and more importantly, why?
No matter how successful you are in life, happenings will always arise to knock you off your center. When all else falls away, all you really have is you.
Investing in yourself is saying that you are vested in you. Exactly what it takes to stay centered, relax, keep progressing, and create more of what you already have as a “successful” person.
No one knows this better than you. The entrepreneur, the professional athlete, the exec at the job you absolutely love.
With discipline, in the physical realm, we create time. Time is freedom. Freedom also exists in other realms…
You made it happen. You created a life you love. But something is still missing.
Could your health be better so that when you do have free time you are not so exhausted and blown out that all you can do is lie in front of the TV? Or go on a vacation that doubles as an adventure instead of lying on a beach the entire time trying to recapture the sleep you lost over the last few months?
Were you a professional athlete 15 years ago who is still hanging on to what once was? Spending your current time still trying to ride that wave, numbing yourself when you can’t deal with life, and eating poorly to the point of detriment?
Do you claim to be a writer because you’ve written for a magazine or two, yet that book, that book you’ve spent 20 years thinking about is still just a dream?
Do you call meetings that cut into the efficiency of your employees’ work? Therefore cutting into overall production, costing your bottom line?
Are you having cocktails instead of adding a happy hour run, swim, or outdoor adventure to your schedule, yet still saying you are waaaay too busy and have no time for that?
Is your quality time spent looking outward at what everyone else is doing instead of looking within, digging deep, and committing time every single day to your personal and professional projects?
Or - are you BE-ing in the present? Are you observing your actual current status? Are you observing how you speak to yourself, therefore how you speak to your personal and professional relations? Are you observing how your thoughts, language, and actions affect not only yourself, but those around you? Are you noticing where you are now, and then one step further – where you want to be?
Here’s the deal… you have already found some success. Taking just a moment out of your oh so busy schedule to really take a good look at yourself can go a long way. The problem is that sometimes we are so in our egos and so busy being “busy” that we cannot see past ourselves. We think we are doing everything possible to make our personal and professional lives better, but we simply are not.
A fresh set of eyes coming from a completely neutral place, someone who knows nothing about who you are or who you once were, can easily examine any hang ups and expertly guide you to what’s next. But be ready. A great coach has serious skills. They will call you out on your shit before you even know what is happening. They will not be afraid to tell you what no one else will dare say to you.
All the moments pointing the finger at others, telling people what you need, telling people how things are going to go, compartmentalizing, attempting to control everything, speaking rather than listening, time lost on social media, time spent avoiding versus taking responsibility, time wasted walking away versus stepping into your fears… some of these examples just might fall into the lack of discipline category.
Life is all about balance and it should be all about FUN. Fun is simply not possible if your current status is full of numbing and filling voids in unhealthy ways, asking others to meet you halfway, but not doing the same, and ultimately looking outward versus inward. Fun is freedom. Freedom evolves from time. Time evolves from discipline. Discipline creates freedom.
A coach is not going to tell you what you want to hear. A coach is going to hold you accountable. Then with the discipline you create, there’s a good chance that in the future you could add another bigger better longer adventure to your life. No matter your situation, freedom in all realms is always an option.
Are you up for the challenge?
You must learn to get in touch with the innermost essence of your being.
This true essence is beyond the ego.
It is fearless; it is free; it is immune to criticism; it does not fear any challenge.
It is beneath no one, superior to no one, and full of magic, mystery and enchantment.
We love to Après!
Après-Ski. Après-Surf. Après-Ride. Après-Work. Après is a verb.
But wanna make something happen?
Après(after)-Coaching, we find our line.
Work hard, play harder. Discipline creates freedom. Take action. Find your line. Do not give a F*CK about what anyone else, not one single person, thinks. We all have shit. We all have insecurities. We all have problems. We all have family, even if not by blood. We all need more time. We all need support. We all need space. And at the same time we need each other. Whoever you are thinking about at this very moment has “stuff”, too. It’s not all about you, all of the time. And simultaneously, we simply must, from Guru’s Jazzmatazz: “Take a look at yourself, take a look at yourself, take one good look, take a look at yourself.” You can sit around and talk shit if you’d like, always pointing the finger outward. But how’s that working out for you? You could also take all of that energy and direct it back within in order to notice your own ways, make changes, and make your next moves. We simply must in order to find balance. Without balance, we don't have much. Without even realizing it, we will keep looking outward to feel good instead of inward. Always stand up for yourself. Always stand in your truth. And then very quickly move on. Take responsibility. Go within. It might suck. It can be hard. It can be the absolute worst. But chances are, someone else is actually digging deep, deeper, deepest, owning what is theirs, finding necessary and neutral support, taking right action, and managing every curveball that comes their way with absolute style and grace, riding that lovely line.
And yeah, let's après.