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Après Sessions embrace embodied and progressive practices. Holistic Health. Train Your Brain. Find Your Freedom.

 

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Our holistic approach to optimal health and performance empowers you to discover your true potential.

 

Everything we do is about finding your freedom.

 

Why “Après”? Because “after” coaching, you will find your line.   

 

Inspired by riding mountains and surfing oceans, Après Coaching Sessions are a nod to the discipline and diligence necessary to master these epic environments, the freedom found in doing so, and the reward of post-excursion celebrations known as après-ski. Après Sessions, on and off the mountain, are holistic meaning an integrated whole experience.

 

Holistic health coaching considers the whole human system to spearhead what we find in the state of “flow” resulting in optimal performance and wellness in all realms of life.

 

Joni Madere - Teach. Coach. Consult.

 

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Summer Lovin' & Conscious Relationships

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What does "conscious relationship" mean to you?

Relationships are on the holistic health list because they are one realm of many that equate to an integrated, whole, healthy life. Friendship. Family. Acquaintances. Business. Intimate. What might we be pretending not to know about our relationships? What does it mean to be in a “conscious relationship”? How can we foster some summer lovin’ this month and every month?

This is a considerable conversation, but at the most basic level, when confrontation occurs, or you are triggered by another in any way, it is always an opportunity to step back, take a deep breath, and take a few minutes to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Of course, this is often easier said than done – especially in that moment when you become fired up before you even realize what is happening. But, with a few extra tools and techniques, you’d be surprised how quickly you can transform and diffuse many of these moments from highly reactive to open, spacious and rewarding.

One of the best ways to put ourselves in another’s shoes is to ask ourselves: Does this person need to be right? Or do they want peace? Do I need to be right about this? Or do I prefer peace? Is this a topic worthy of fuss and fight?

If it seems a friend always wants “his way”, how can we take a look at this within ourselves? If a client insists on billing top dollar within her own business, but is unwilling to pay top dollar for another’s work, is it wise to continue this relationship? If one’s expectations of what will be received in a relationship are different from what will be given, how can we put ourselves in the other person’s shoes and decide from their perspective if this is fair, just, or if it even makes sense? A few basic examples within first glance of becoming more conscious within our relationships.

Relationships are one of the most complex elements of life. It is important to be in them. It is equally important to spend time away from them. It is important to be vulnerable and be open to them. It is important to realize when we shy away from them or are unable to take space from them. It may sound like stating the obvious, but it is important to put ourselves in one another’s shoes. It is safe to assume that the other party wants a peaceful existence, too, even if they do not realize it themselves. Only the beginning... keeping these thoughts in place is the gateway to more conscious ways of relating... toward more summer lovin’. #SessionIt

Getting Gritty and Going One Step Beyond

We aren't just speaking on your athletic endeavors or your success in business, your wedding ring, nor your social media following. Well, some of those things are pieces of the puzzle regarding getting gritty to get to where you want to be. But the external is far from what is authentically living a holistic lifestyle. Appearances are one thing. Only you know what is truly going on within your world.

Did a potential business partner question why you negated what they brought to table per your request? Were you respectful and authentic in your response? Did you respond at all? One example. These types of life happenings are always worth revisiting. The only way to go beyond is to first acknowledge what is.

The willingness to get a little gritty - and even a little scrappy - to get to where we want to be begins by committing to cultivating awareness. Meditation is certainly one way to begin.

Cultivating Awareness of the Necessary External Grit + Cultivating Awareness of the Necessary Internal Grit = Change is a Comin’ 

If you haven’t already become aware of the external grittiness necessary, welp, that would be step one. The things you want do not formulate out of thin air. But if you are here, you already know this.

Whether you want to step up a level within your physical health or within all of your relationships, by cultivating awareness of external grit, I’m referring to the physicality and the tenacity. The next step of taking daily action will not happen without cultivating awareness. Yes, this may seem obvious. But there are also key elements to working smart versus working hard. Ask me.

The action includes the commitment to rise each day and not just move through the day, but move through best practices. We move through rituals and movement, through the things we want to do least, moving from duty to duty, meeting others halfway, with willingness to let go of things (that cocktail or toke, for example) and people (self-serving, needy, codependent, et al) who pull us off track. We stay the course and constantly course correct until we close our eyes each night.

The internal grit is not always so obvious. However, it is far more important and exactly what lends to our ability to gracefully move through the external grit – and then some. Anyone can elbow his or her way through a race, or into a meeting, or even into a relationship. So circle back to… how you do anything is how you do everything. Most importantly, this internal tenacity is what lends to our ability to navigate what lurks in the shadows, inevitably popping up when we least expect it.

This internal grit - the willingness to look at oneself every single day - and how to navigate what comes up, is no small task. Why? Because it means not only discovering what is your part in what you don’t like in your life, but actually owning your part in what you don’t like in your life. Life is not fair. Many are handed far too many experiences beyond their control. However, with tools and techniques at our fingertips – because we have practiced them so much - we can cultivate an environment of welcoming these challenges with an open mind seeing them as gifts versus anything with negative connotation. No small feat.

If you just balled your eyes out to someone you hardly know. No sweat. It happens. We come back to our “beginner’s mind”, we notice, breathe, inquire, see and meet what comes up both big and small with curiosity, gain understanding, learn the lessons, integrate them, and eventually transition through them to where we prefer to stand tall. Much like the yoga pose example, we cannot ever ignore the difficult dark parts of the psyche because they will eventually take us down much like falling out of that yoga pose due to lack of a strong base and quiet mind.
This newfound awareness often requires a neutral eye so that we can uncover what we cannot see in ourselves.

Everyone has these blind spots. An example would even be repetitive phrases we no longer hear ourselves saying because we have been repeating them for so long. Sometimes a friend repeating this back to us can not only be revealing, but a little shocking. As Gloria Steinem said,

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”

So while it will still piss us off, it is usually much better received and integrated with the correct info, tools, and techniques from a more neutral perspective.

Revealing what we cannot see on our own may require stepping out of one’s comfort zone by hiring said neutral eye. Within holistic health coaching, we too, hire coaches. My most recent hire is someone who excelled to the point of being able to fully retire for the rest of his life at under the age of 35. Instead of wooping it up on an around the world vacation, he decided to step further into his purpose, dove deep into self transformation work, and now coaches and consults within business and life to share what he learned and support the growth and progression of others. Hiring accountability comes with this whole trendy cliché, but truth, of “one step beyond our comfort zone is where the magic happens”.

This often means stepping way far beyond where our egos wanna go. Egos get a bad rap. We need the ego to make shit happen. But like anything else out of balance they too will hold us back. Doesn’t matter if our ego is blown up or shot down, either way, there is lack of balance.

Perhaps our ego being out of balance does not hold us back in our work given this is a lot of surface/external/material stuff. But if not in our work, perhaps it has held us back in our intimate relationships, or even in an area no one but ourselves are aware of, but that we must resolve within ourselves in order to find peace.

It’s much easier to step into “I’m going to be the best at XYZ so I’m going to travel halfway across the world to do XYZ with world renowned XYZ and publicize it for the world to see. This may assist in finding material success, but then there it is for all to see... the very apparent, even in high performers, continual seeking of validation from outside sources versus within oneself. Therefore, it is super to work with a coach who has also done the deep personal work, not to perfection, but to vast understanding, in supporting our own deep dives towards transformation.

Circling back - notice I said zones - plural. Yup – within all realms we must look within, find the gritty darker sections and move through them versus around them. Much like that yoga pose, you can go through all sorts of contortions to get to what looks like the pose to the untrained eye. But upon closer inspection there are all sorts of body parts out of alignment. This means we might get to the pose – for a second or two – but we will not be able to maintain the pose without doing the practice it takes to achieve strength, flexibility, and correct, safe alignment, essentially the truths. And even those able to hold the pose – that too is external. Transitioning that work off of the yoga mat is essential. Finding, building, maintaining these truths eventually leads to day-in and day-out practices including comfortably, effortlessly holding that yoga pose sans the physical and mental gymnastics – while calmly, smoothly, and surely breathing. 

The natural inclination is to avoid the yoga poses we do not like. These are the poses that we usually need to lean into and practice. Regarding embodied cognition – if our heart has been broken, moving through “heart openers” can literally be physically as well as emotionally extremely confronting. But eventually, opening these areas of the body physically, can lend to opening them back up emotionally. This is embodied cognition at its finest. Same in other realms of life - we run away from the parts we don’t like, that may not feel good, that scare us, that we just don’t want to deal with, while they are exactly what we need to face, head on, stepping out of our comfort zones, right through the door into our full capacities and everything we really want.

So how do we be sure to incorporate getting gritty?

With daily rituals, structure, meditation, movement you can quickly be on your way each day. Ready to après? Session it. But truly getting gritty internally, what some therapists and coaches term “shadow work”, is where we can really level up, which washes out into the world in beautiful positive waves. And then there is always another level, right? I would be happy to suggest a few ways I have personally employed plus some exciting upcoming offerings. Super excited to guide you and your teams through these processes. #SessionIt

Intentions 2018

I have personally experienced confusion on what “setting an intention” means. I get it. It’s confusing. 

Here at Après Sessions our holistic coaching sessions most certainly involve taking action. In case you didn’t know, in ski towns, après is verb.

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Words don’t actually mean a thing without action behind them. People make unkempt promises (a.k.a. resolutions this time of year) to themselves, and therefore to others, all the time. So don’t even worry about that. The gold is in manifesting, which involves not only taking action, but also the intentions behind the actions.

...FEELINGS. Intentions have to do with those oh so gooey feelings we don’t always want to mess with. You can push them aside and hope they go away, but trust me they will come back, often in a very similar form creating more unrest versus peace. So. What are ya gonna do about it?

First, get clear on how you want to feel. If you met your goal, what would that feel like internally, to you and only you?

In a business relationship, perhaps you want to feel more secure. In a personal relationship perhaps you want to feel more at peace and relaxed.

Then ask WHY? Why do you want to feel these emotions versus what you currently feel?  Take some time with this. Journal about it. Put pen to paper.

Practice. This stuff doesn’t happen overnight. It takes time and patience, so go easy on yourself, but be firm with yourself.

...EMBODIMENT. Next, embody the qualities you’d like to feel. Safe. Secure. Peaceful. Excited. Relaxed. Fun. Even successful.

How? Put yourself in situations that make you feel this way. This involves taking massive responsibility for yourself, what you create, whom you co-create with, and truly owning your shit so that you can shift to embodiment of the better. A simple suggestion day-to-day: do what you love.

...QUESTION YOURSELF. Why do I want that thing? Why am I expending so much time and energy on this? What am I aiming to feel by gaining that? When you get clear and realize it is rooted in your most absolute authentic self, whether that shows up as a positive or negative, then you know you have something to work with. You can trust it. And that has an absolute ripple affect toward what you really want. Why? Because we can become at peace with it, embrace it, shift it if need be, and move forward.

...TRUST. This is a big one. I can say that for me this one was, and still is, a frickin’ head banger. But with a lot of practice, it happens.

I am not talking about trusting or not trusting a family member, a partner, or an acquaintance. I am talking about trusting that everything happens as it is supposed to. I am talking about trusting timing, right timing, and that in time things fall into place whether they are what you think you need or not. It is happening to support that authenticity that you found in the above practice. The only way to find it and work with it is to get really curious, get really really gritty, vulnerable, and honest with yourself, chip away at the details, and practice practice, practice.

Trust. Breathe. Let it happen.

I LOVE talking about embodiment and utilizing the breath and shifting states, so if you wanna really geek out, please contact me.

We all stumble around and spill milk on a regular basis. That, too, is part of the process.

Let’s set some intentions.

Best to you in the new year!

Joni

In the motions and the things that you say
It all will fall, fall right into place
As fruit drops, flesh it sags
Everything will fall right into place
When we die some sink and some lay
But at least I don't see you float away
And on split milk, sex and weight
It all will fall, fall right into place
- Modest Mouse

WITH HEALTH COMES EVERYTHING ELSE /// ORGANIC LABELING

 
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At Aprés Coaching, we really do believe that with health comes everything else. Not to say there are not other realms to be considered beyond nutrition and exercise. But it has been published time and time again, backed by science, that our gut is now considered our second brain. What you consume affects not only your physical body, but your mind and your emotions.

When you are eating well, you are clear-headed, potentially more aware of yourself as well as your words and actions, more productive, and simply feel good. This in turn affects yourself, your relationships, your career, your entire reality for the better.

Organic foods can be a stretch for many to understand, approach, and sometimes to make sense of financially. Holistic health coaches can arm you with information, answer your why’s, and look at all aspects of your life in order to tweak certain areas so that you can easily add in organics where you can.

Understanding labeling is a first step.  HERE, Whole Foods Market breaks down organic labeling, so that you can put your knowledge toward your buying power. Start where you are. Embrace change. Food is medicine. Be well.