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Our holistic approach to optimal health and performance empowers you to discover your true potential.

 

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Why “Après”? Because “after” coaching, you will find your line.   

 

Inspired by riding mountains and surfing oceans, Après Coaching Sessions are a nod to the discipline and diligence necessary to master these epic environments, the freedom found in doing so, and the reward of post-excursion celebrations known as après-ski. Après Sessions, on and off the mountain, are holistic meaning an integrated whole experience.

 

Holistic health coaching considers the whole human system to spearhead what we find in the state of “flow” resulting in optimal performance and wellness in all realms of life.

 

Joni Madere - Teach. Coach. Consult.

 

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Getting Gritty and Going One Step Beyond

We aren't just speaking on your athletic endeavors or your success in business, your wedding ring, nor your social media following. Well, some of those things are pieces of the puzzle regarding getting gritty to get to where you want to be. But the external is far from what is authentically living a holistic lifestyle. Appearances are one thing. Only you know what is truly going on within your world.

Did a potential business partner question why you negated what they brought to table per your request? Were you respectful and authentic in your response? Did you respond at all? One example. These types of life happenings are always worth revisiting. The only way to go beyond is to first acknowledge what is.

The willingness to get a little gritty - and even a little scrappy - to get to where we want to be begins by committing to cultivating awareness. Meditation is certainly one way to begin.

Cultivating Awareness of the Necessary External Grit + Cultivating Awareness of the Necessary Internal Grit = Change is a Comin’ 

If you haven’t already become aware of the external grittiness necessary, welp, that would be step one. The things you want do not formulate out of thin air. But if you are here, you already know this.

Whether you want to step up a level within your physical health or within all of your relationships, by cultivating awareness of external grit, I’m referring to the physicality and the tenacity. The next step of taking daily action will not happen without cultivating awareness. Yes, this may seem obvious. But there are also key elements to working smart versus working hard. Ask me.

The action includes the commitment to rise each day and not just move through the day, but move through best practices. We move through rituals and movement, through the things we want to do least, moving from duty to duty, meeting others halfway, with willingness to let go of things (that cocktail or toke, for example) and people (self-serving, needy, codependent, et al) who pull us off track. We stay the course and constantly course correct until we close our eyes each night.

The internal grit is not always so obvious. However, it is far more important and exactly what lends to our ability to gracefully move through the external grit – and then some. Anyone can elbow his or her way through a race, or into a meeting, or even into a relationship. So circle back to… how you do anything is how you do everything. Most importantly, this internal tenacity is what lends to our ability to navigate what lurks in the shadows, inevitably popping up when we least expect it.

This internal grit - the willingness to look at oneself every single day - and how to navigate what comes up, is no small task. Why? Because it means not only discovering what is your part in what you don’t like in your life, but actually owning your part in what you don’t like in your life. Life is not fair. Many are handed far too many experiences beyond their control. However, with tools and techniques at our fingertips – because we have practiced them so much - we can cultivate an environment of welcoming these challenges with an open mind seeing them as gifts versus anything with negative connotation. No small feat.

If you just balled your eyes out to someone you hardly know. No sweat. It happens. We come back to our “beginner’s mind”, we notice, breathe, inquire, see and meet what comes up both big and small with curiosity, gain understanding, learn the lessons, integrate them, and eventually transition through them to where we prefer to stand tall. Much like the yoga pose example, we cannot ever ignore the difficult dark parts of the psyche because they will eventually take us down much like falling out of that yoga pose due to lack of a strong base and quiet mind.
This newfound awareness often requires a neutral eye so that we can uncover what we cannot see in ourselves.

Everyone has these blind spots. An example would even be repetitive phrases we no longer hear ourselves saying because we have been repeating them for so long. Sometimes a friend repeating this back to us can not only be revealing, but a little shocking. As Gloria Steinem said,

“The truth will set you free, but first it will piss you off.”

So while it will still piss us off, it is usually much better received and integrated with the correct info, tools, and techniques from a more neutral perspective.

Revealing what we cannot see on our own may require stepping out of one’s comfort zone by hiring said neutral eye. Within holistic health coaching, we too, hire coaches. My most recent hire is someone who excelled to the point of being able to fully retire for the rest of his life at under the age of 35. Instead of wooping it up on an around the world vacation, he decided to step further into his purpose, dove deep into self transformation work, and now coaches and consults within business and life to share what he learned and support the growth and progression of others. Hiring accountability comes with this whole trendy cliché, but truth, of “one step beyond our comfort zone is where the magic happens”.

This often means stepping way far beyond where our egos wanna go. Egos get a bad rap. We need the ego to make shit happen. But like anything else out of balance they too will hold us back. Doesn’t matter if our ego is blown up or shot down, either way, there is lack of balance.

Perhaps our ego being out of balance does not hold us back in our work given this is a lot of surface/external/material stuff. But if not in our work, perhaps it has held us back in our intimate relationships, or even in an area no one but ourselves are aware of, but that we must resolve within ourselves in order to find peace.

It’s much easier to step into “I’m going to be the best at XYZ so I’m going to travel halfway across the world to do XYZ with world renowned XYZ and publicize it for the world to see. This may assist in finding material success, but then there it is for all to see... the very apparent, even in high performers, continual seeking of validation from outside sources versus within oneself. Therefore, it is super to work with a coach who has also done the deep personal work, not to perfection, but to vast understanding, in supporting our own deep dives towards transformation.

Circling back - notice I said zones - plural. Yup – within all realms we must look within, find the gritty darker sections and move through them versus around them. Much like that yoga pose, you can go through all sorts of contortions to get to what looks like the pose to the untrained eye. But upon closer inspection there are all sorts of body parts out of alignment. This means we might get to the pose – for a second or two – but we will not be able to maintain the pose without doing the practice it takes to achieve strength, flexibility, and correct, safe alignment, essentially the truths. And even those able to hold the pose – that too is external. Transitioning that work off of the yoga mat is essential. Finding, building, maintaining these truths eventually leads to day-in and day-out practices including comfortably, effortlessly holding that yoga pose sans the physical and mental gymnastics – while calmly, smoothly, and surely breathing. 

The natural inclination is to avoid the yoga poses we do not like. These are the poses that we usually need to lean into and practice. Regarding embodied cognition – if our heart has been broken, moving through “heart openers” can literally be physically as well as emotionally extremely confronting. But eventually, opening these areas of the body physically, can lend to opening them back up emotionally. This is embodied cognition at its finest. Same in other realms of life - we run away from the parts we don’t like, that may not feel good, that scare us, that we just don’t want to deal with, while they are exactly what we need to face, head on, stepping out of our comfort zones, right through the door into our full capacities and everything we really want.

So how do we be sure to incorporate getting gritty?

With daily rituals, structure, meditation, movement you can quickly be on your way each day. Ready to après? Session it. But truly getting gritty internally, what some therapists and coaches term “shadow work”, is where we can really level up, which washes out into the world in beautiful positive waves. And then there is always another level, right? I would be happy to suggest a few ways I have personally employed plus some exciting upcoming offerings. Super excited to guide you and your teams through these processes. #SessionIt

The Art of (Paying) Attention

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Awareness requires attention. A lot of it. This observation is only growing over the decades into quite a beast with today’s technology plus all other realities of modern day life. Attention is now truly an art.

Paying attention is becoming more and more of a lesser held quality - a fading art. The art of attention includes listening, paying attention to others and paying attention to oneself. Equally. Taking time in many moments throughout each day to focus on how we are with ourselves, from our tasks at hand to how we speak to ourselves. The way we speak to ourselves is a sure indicator of the way we speak to, and of, others. This art of attention is also a good indicator of whether we are capable of stepping out of our own shoes and into those of another.

Listen. Listen deeply. Even when you think you are listening, drop in a little more. Listen to yourself. Listen to your body. Your body can often tell you things that your mind cannot. Stop talking. Listen. Like, really listen. Notice. Pay attention. We all have moments of needing to express ourselves, talking over others, not fully listening, needing to be the comedian, the life of the party, or the Instaham. While I lean more introverted than extroverted, I still have those moments, too.

The concern is severe imbalance. The iPhone alone greatly shortened my own attention span which was historically much greater. As a holistic health coach and consultant, I have many tools and techniques that I share with clients. But our society's lack of an attention span has intensified over the last several years. It was a shocking, yet very clear, observation in moving from one city to another based on differences in the personalities of the populations. But truly, the newer inability to pay attention is everywhere. How can we further share how to slow down and pay greater attention to one another to truly connect in order to progress which is where we find fulfillment? Let's discuss. I am passionate about saving this seemingly dying art of attention - please reach out if you have any further ideas . No pun intended, but I’m all ears.

“A wise man once said nothing.” ~Proverb

We Are Our Rituals

Commonly heard:

How you do anything is how you do everything.

This phrase has been thrown around for a long time. I first heard it from a yoga teacher in Denver. Who said it first? Who knows. What matters is that it stuck. It resonated.

Do you wake up and first take a few minutes to notice how your body feels, sit and breathe and practice monitoring your thoughts before even sitting up? Or do you lean over grab your phone, check your email, social media, the news and begin the day instantly affected in some way.  Perhaps even entering your morning in a state of agitation or overwhelm?

We all ebb and flow within “how you do anything is how you do everything”, so no need to be hard on yourself if you occasionally get stuck or run off-course. Creating rituals is one way to cultivate a practice of listening, staying focused, remaining calm, and deeply connected to what really matters to you. Not anyone else, just you. 

Creating rituals and structure down to small moments throughout the day really can keep you almost completely out of overwhelm, negative thought patterns, and into the discovery of deeper truths much needed to stay the course. Sure, these truths may bring confronting information to the surface, but that is inevitably part of the process toward progression. Eventually many rituals transition into habits. Then you can add new rituals and tidbits of structure to accommodate where you are today. Where are you today? Let’s après.

From gracefully transitioning from one yoga pose to another, to navigating Los Angeles traffic like a Jedi, how you do anything is truly how you do everything. Rituals move us toward the art of attention. Pay attention. Pay attention to your breath. Is it smooth? Is it erratic? In those moments where you are somehow affected by external events, is it smooth? Is it erratic? Pay attention to the pause between the breaths. This offering is one small way to create awareness and self-awareness which ripples out far beyond you. Learn more about creating rituals and finding those that will work for you and your teams today.

RUN WITH WOLVES

 
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While many within business and career are left-brain dominant, it is so refreshing to continually meet those also leaning into working from another realm. Those who collaborate, share, listen, learn, support and allow for that leftover percentage of space available after “I”, “You”, and “We”. The space where we not only co-author our experiences, but co-allow for a little more expansion.

Much like the saying about the gods laughing while you make plans…

We believe in planning, visualization and taking action. But while you dive deep into spreadsheets, networking events, claiming barely-there friendships, going super hard after potential clients until they formulate or oops disappear, doing what you know to be THE way because of what you were taught in school… are you actually shutting out another entire realm of possibility? By living and working solely from a place society deems civilized, we more often than not lose creativity and gain fear.

Get quiet and pretend you know nothing about anything. Listen. Listen deeply. To others. To yourself. What do you hear? Trust that.

A pack of wolves doesn’t have a plan per se. They run, they protect, they are intensely relational by nature and highly involved with their mates, their young, and their pack. Keen, sensing, playful, devoted. Loyal, hard-working, reliable, yet know when to rest. Diligent yet simultaneously BE-ing. Wolves adapt to constantly changing circumstances. They are deeply intuitive. As humans we have lost a sense of trust, trusting ourselves, and therefore one another. We have lost much in the way of elemental experience allowing for further cultivation of intuition. There is a re-wilding within all of us that desperately needs to take place in order to evolve and progress. While this is not a women-specific post, the book Women Who Run With Wolves comes to mind as we continue to collaborate with like-minded folks who understand that this is about oh so much more than anyone’s bottom line. You know who you are. Thank You. Thank you. Thank you.

Questions about running with wolves and running your team, family, and yourself toward peak-to-peak performance? #SessionIt

When seeking guidance, don't ever listen to the tiny-hearted. Be kind to them, heap them with blessing, cajole them, but do not follow their advice. -Clarissa Pinkola Estés, Women Who Run With the Wolves