What does "conscious relationship" mean to you?
Relationships are on the holistic health list because they are one realm of many that equate to an integrated, whole, healthy life. Friendship. Family. Acquaintances. Business. Intimate. What might we be pretending not to know about our relationships? What does it mean to be in a “conscious relationship”? How can we foster some summer lovin’ this month and every month?
This is a considerable conversation, but at the most basic level, when confrontation occurs, or you are triggered by another in any way, it is always an opportunity to step back, take a deep breath, and take a few minutes to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. Of course, this is often easier said than done – especially in that moment when you become fired up before you even realize what is happening. But, with a few extra tools and techniques, you’d be surprised how quickly you can transform and diffuse many of these moments from highly reactive to open, spacious and rewarding.
One of the best ways to put ourselves in another’s shoes is to ask ourselves: Does this person need to be right? Or do they want peace? Do I need to be right about this? Or do I prefer peace? Is this a topic worthy of fuss and fight?
If it seems a friend always wants “his way”, how can we take a look at this within ourselves? If a client insists on billing top dollar within her own business, but is unwilling to pay top dollar for another’s work, is it wise to continue this relationship? If one’s expectations of what will be received in a relationship are different from what will be given, how can we put ourselves in the other person’s shoes and decide from their perspective if this is fair, just, or if it even makes sense? A few basic examples within first glance of becoming more conscious within our relationships.
Relationships are one of the most complex elements of life. It is important to be in them. It is equally important to spend time away from them. It is important to be vulnerable and be open to them. It is important to realize when we shy away from them or are unable to take space from them. It may sound like stating the obvious, but it is important to put ourselves in one another’s shoes. It is safe to assume that the other party wants a peaceful existence, too, even if they do not realize it themselves. Only the beginning... keeping these thoughts in place is the gateway to more conscious ways of relating... toward more summer lovin’. #SessionIt